Uncoerced

Uncoerced

When people read The Cure, we get this single response almost more than any other: “I don’t get it. You make it sound too easy. Aren’t we supposed to do something?”

Now, stop for just a moment and stare at that question-“Aren’t we supposed to do something?”

Then think about when you first fell in love with another person. Do you remember how you only wanted to learn everything about her or him? You couldn’t do enough. You couldn’t receive enough. You’d lay in bed, with your hands clasped behind your head, smiling and imagining what you could do next that would delight their heart, and bring them good. It was free, unforced, and uncoerced. You probably were never so productive, creative, or most living out of who you were made to be!

Can you imagine how ridiculous it would have felt if someone had challenged that relationship to do something more through should, or ought, or raising the bar, or duty or any other lesser motivation. Love was a stronger and more powerful impetus than any man-fashioned ought could ever be. Only after other junk slipped in and love was marred or no longer trusted, were we ever driven to seek out lesser motivations.

As soon as you find yourself asking, “Aren’t we supposed to do something”, you know your ladder has found its way up against a wrong wall.

We’re not naïve. There are thousands of expressions of love that God reminds us we get to be about. But lovers do them without being manipulated or goaded. They express them by being freed to live out of the very love that has captivated them.

There’s a very, very good reason why Paul says in Romans thirteen that every single possible ought or should is summed up in getting to love your neighbor as yourself.

The reason people feel the need to have someone motivate them, through an appeal to duty or ought or, guilt, or shame, or tough talking…is because they’ve already traded away the best motivation. It is the only motivation we are built, as new creatures, to live out of. The only one. Its what we’ve wanted to do all along. And when we’re not forced into rebellion or compliance by coercion, we take to it like a New Yorker eating an overstuffed deli sandwich.

We don’t need more moral lectures on how we’re supposed to be better, do more, or shape up and not be so lazy in our faith. We know that. We get it. And maybe you can even shame us out of lethargy or laziness for a few days using enough religious patter or inspirational appeal.

But what we really need are winsome teachers who can remind us of why we came in the first place. We need teachers who know how to encourage and woo our new hearts to come out. That’s where the power is, in that new life-the one that has Christ and all of His sovereign strength, love and goodness fused through it.

I know how to avoid, get around, or ignore what I’m even convinced I should, or ought to do. What I cannot avoid, don’t want to avoid, is the aggressively heroic and tirelessly productive response to love. In such a state, I not only do something, I do more than I ever dreamed I would. I surpass duty’s obligation before mid-morning coffee!

It is much easier to motivate by moralism, ought, guilt, compliance and discipline than to teach how to receive love. That’s why so few do the latter. But when you see it in action, when you see it risked, you witness an environment, more often than not, loving each other and the world around them really well. You don’t see it often, because it’s not often tried. But, more and more, people are just about weary enough to start considering this Original Good News again.

This next generation is not negligent to obedience because they haven’t been talked to strongly enough. This generation isn’t lazy or disinterested in spiritual things because they’ve been taught too much grace. This generation has been taught compliance through “ought” that has robbed them of the one gift that will free heartfelt obedience.

The gift starts with the letter “L”.


9 comments (Add your own)

1. Richard wrote:
We’re not naïve. There are thousands of expressions of love that God reminds us we get to be about. But lovers do them without being manipulated or goaded. They express them by being freed to live out of the very love that has captivated them.

Reading that reminds me of where it says in the book of Revelation, of us returning to our first love-learning all over gain to live in and out that which first captivated our lives.


But what we really need are winsome teachers who can remind us of why we came in the first place. We need teachers who know how to encourage and woo our new hearts to come out. That’s where the power is, in that new life-the one that has Christ and all of His sovereign strength, love and goodness fused through it.

I prefer Father's speaking into my life, meaning, as Paul put it, there are thousands of teachers, but ever so few Father's speaking to the hearts of His children. And where John says, You Father's have known Him from the beginning.

Really enjoyed your thoughts John, thanks!

Thu, January 19, 2012 @ 4:58 AM

2. Rebekah Grace wrote:
DUDE! Ha ha, ever have someone call you that John? :) There was a sentence at the top I wanted to quote in my comments, and then there was another, and another, and another. Oh how good this stuff is. So very, very good.

If I had a dollar for everytime I've asked, 'What am I supposed to be DOING?" To God, myself, or others, I wouldn't need to ask it anymore, I'd be rich (as the Barenaked Ladies sing it! :)

I've been captured John. In a way I never knew was even possible. And recently I've been coming across people who are angry and fearful of God. I get it, whew do I get it. I'm not offended, how could I be offended by an experience I've had, right? I don't coerce, been there, done that and all it brought me was more anger (still carry some of it today. That's one reason I don't quote the Bible or talk about Jesus all. the. time!) I'll tell ya what I do, or at the very least what I'm trying to do. Let these people be where they are. Give them the freedom to express their junk. After all, didn't God let me do the same to Him? Doesn't it all come back to that anyway? What He has allowed me, shown me, given to me, aren't I here to give the same?

I just wrote in my prayer journal this morning, "Father, to have the humbling privilidge to show others your love......"

And to end my rambling comment, as soom as I saw the title of this post, I laughed and said, 'Uncoerced" as I clicked to enter and read. I knew. I just knew it was gonna be good.

Grace be to you and the other tribe members. Today and always.

Thu, January 19, 2012 @ 8:21 AM

3. pollydee wrote:
I am part of a group in my neck of the woods where we are starting the RISK you wrote about.
We are crafting a safe place to receive and give love. Most of us are weary and isolated. It's been too long! These things ought not to be so! How i appreciate your modeling and writing that speaks so wonderfully from the heart.

Thu, January 19, 2012 @ 9:00 AM

4. Steve Woolf wrote:
Thanks, John,
It is much like the difference in athletic coaches that we see. There are coaches who rip and roll and you know you're going to get a verbal lashing and possibly physical punishment if you do not perform to their standard.
The other kind of coach is the person that kids want to run through a wall for. Whatever it takes to please that coach... that's what they want to do. Why? Love. They know that coach knows them as a human being, allow the athlete to know them, and will do whatever it takes to help the athlete.
I get sick watching the first kind of coach. In fact, as a superintendent, we restructured our coaching contracts in our district so that it is simply not allowed. If they can't lead with love then they need to find another place to bully athletes.
Thanks for the good work, John!
Steve

Thu, January 19, 2012 @ 9:55 AM

5. Len wrote:
AWESOME!

Thu, January 19, 2012 @ 10:02 AM

6. Kris wrote:
"Freedom to express my junk" -- clearing the channels of artifice, opening to love and God's relational connection to all, receiving their junk in return. Sort of like a colon cleanse at its most roto-rooting effectiveness....Change will be inevitable and uncoerced at that point -- at least that's my humble (sometimes humiliating) experience.
What I would give for an overstuffed deli sandwich right now!

Thu, January 19, 2012 @ 10:52 AM

7. Russell of the Oregon Coast wrote:
Kris must be over 50! :) Hey, me to. Anyway, yes, LOVE laughs at and sweeps aside "obligated duty" as it whiz's by in pursuit of its beloved. Perfect analogy John.

Thu, January 19, 2012 @ 10:42 PM

8. Robert Greggs wrote:
Powerful yet, confusing. Last Sunday my pastor preached from the First Epistle of John on true Christians obey Him and don't just say they believe. So, I struggle with this issue. Being in grace means I can be real, not hide, and that I am"accepted" in the beloved. But it doesn't stop the expectation of obedience. It is like a balancing act.... or is it? I have questions here obviously harmonizing obedience and grace. I need to reconnect to that love that will not let me go. I remember those days when I carried my Lving Bible (hey,, they are all living but that was the title,remember?) all the time!! Read it constantly and wanted to talk about it share it experience it.....now it seems so long ago. Part of me wishes I could come to Phoenix for a week for some intensive sessions on getting back to my "first love."But maybe we could get such a group or tribe going in Green Bay. Sorry for the length of my post ....I just miss those early days when I was overwhelmed with such love. And grace.

Fri, January 20, 2012 @ 10:23 AM

9. Kazunari wrote:
I have to agree with Jacques, I do find the Prodigy are slightly over rated for the alubms since Experience, they were definate pioneers back in the day and Liam is very talented but I don't think the following alubms lived up to Experience. This tune as with all the tunes on Experience are strong candidates in their own right and together as an album mind blowing, but I just don't have that same appreciation for their following work, it could be just me perhaps I don't like the route . cont

Sun, September 9, 2012 @ 8:00 PM

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