They Didn't Buy it

They Didn't Buy it

The three of us are often asked why so many in this next generation are moving away from their religious culture the first chance they get. Not just the expression of their faith, but often their hope in any of it. Our answer is this: They didn’t buy it. What their predecessors were purporting as real, as the Christian life. They didn’t trust what they saw growing up. They could tell it wasn’t working for those showing up each Sunday. They could tell it didn’t touch their experience, it didn’t allow them to be real. It felt pretend and manufactured. It was as though everyone was acting a part, but nobody believed their lines. They knew information about the Bible, about God, but it didn’t make them real.

And though this next generation couldn’t form language for it, they eventually, privately thought to themselves, “As soon as I’m old enough to make my own choices, I’m out of here. This is a joke. We’re just saying slogans. There’s no power in this. It doesn’t work.”

And if you asked us what is at the center of a theology that creates this disconnect, we’d probably quote a line from the “Two Gods” chapter of “The Cure”.

“This is the cruel joke we play on ourselves: To bluff and pretend we are righteous, secretly knowing we aren’t, only to eventually discover we actually were all along!”

The next generation watched environments bluffing something they didn’t believe. They were trying to pull off the morals of a nearly impossible dream-Love-with the anemic tools of their own will-power and sanctified self effort. Instead of believing this love was now in them, who they already were, they largely ignored what was true of them from the moment of their new birth. They grinded out an effort to assuage the shame that made them perform. Realizing it didn’t work, they hid. They faked, and they postured and made a big deal of the sins they weren’t vulnerable to and hid the ones to which they were.

And the ones following after finally said, “This is a fraud. I think Jesus is real, but his followers are bluffing. I’m not sure what I’m going to do. I have no answers. But I know I can’t live with myself repeating this!”

God wants to give them, us, something real. Its been waiting all along. Some have seen it all along. Not enough have. Its not too late. It all comes in putting our entire weight on believing who He says we now really are. Righteous. Not judicially, or theoretically or forensically. But actually. It’s trusting that my real identity is fused with his. He’s not over there, disappointed and disgusted with us. He’s here, waiting for His power to be released so we can live the love that now indwells us. We must get our hearts around this reality, we must put all our weight on this truth, or we’ll keep being bad directors in a play that no one really wants to watch.

More later. So glad you’re along with us on this journey.

John. One of the Three Amigos, part of the ever-growing tribe of grace.

25 comments (Add your own)

1. Rebekah Grace wrote:
Oh my! Have you been a fly on the wall of my life? My soul? Goodness sakes.....YES. THIS!

I grew up in the pastor's family. Dad had an affair. Was asked to leave the church. Family imploded. Life, somehow, went on. We found a new church. I attended the school that was in the church. Nothing made sense to me as a girl. I decided to bail around age 13ish. Told mom she couldn't make me go to church anymore. She wasn't impressed, to say the least. I started my 7th grade year in the public school system that the devil ran, or so I thought.

Oh dear me, this story is so long. Fast forward 3 decades. I'm on my feet at the Cross, by His relentless pursuit of this lost and broken daughter. I wasn't fully aware of what I was doing. But He was.

On this 4+ year journey He has been removing all the lies, the misconceptions and showing me His faithfulness outside the camp and cliche's. To say I'm grateful doesn't cover it folks. Not even a little bit. When I stop and pay attention my heart is on it's knees, worshipping the One who resuced me from the pit.

Thank you John. For being a truth speaker into the life of this rebel girl with so much baggage it scares most Christians.

PEACE & LOVE!

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 9:43 AM

2. Bruce wrote:
Noticing the trees in the forest of His love that I've been in for 52 years is really relaxing to my soul

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 9:54 AM

3. Joyce wrote:
Question: When you say, "He’s not over there, disappointed and disgusted with us. He’s here, waiting for His power to be released so we can live the love that now indwells us," ... how is it that "His power" gets "released" in us? Is it something we do ... something He does?

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 9:57 AM

4. Ryan wrote:
This is it exactly! This is my whole story, to a T!

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 10:09 AM

5. Leona Forste wrote:
Brother John,
For a number of years our fellowship is one of a growing number of Churches who have lived with seeing many of our own children leaving the church. It was only when we repented as a church to understand our walk of grace was through Christ alone that we understood fully what was amiss in our churches. By following that new understanding we lost probaly 75% of our worldwide church. Today, some 20 years later, the awe inspiring knowledge of who we all are in Chris,t andknowing he and The Father love us and approve of us and have promised to never leave us has set a new and better way for our children. We have gone from strict Sabbatarian and law based and blinded by our own superiority and rules, to join in the living body of Christ worldwide and united in One faith and one Spirit and One God. Our experience has brought families back together and set a new path for not only apologizing to our children, but being the examples that are making a difference. We show them Christ.
I took your Two Roads Video to our church and it replaced one sermon. It is one of the items we used for our re-education. We are leaving the calling of our children up to God and praying that they come back to us in the church as they already have to the familes.
Thank you for this article, and we appreciate the support we have had all over the world as we grow together in the grace and understadnign of our Lord.
Leona Forste...a member the Grace Communion International...formerly Worldwide Church of God.

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 10:14 AM

6. Katy M. wrote:
"It all comes in putting our entire weight on believing who He says we now really are." WOW!! Needed to be reminded of those words today. So thankful for a God who wants my identity to be fused with His. So thankful to hear Him whisper to me, "This is who you are." So thankful that I had parents who encouraged me to question so I would not be one of "those" in the next generation. God is good!!!

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 10:28 AM

7. DD wrote:
Great post John Thanks!

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 11:19 AM

8. Sally Hoover wrote:

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9. Sally Hoover wrote:

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10. Sally Hoover wrote:

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 12:56 PM

11. Charlene Poston wrote:
My heart has been heavy for this generation for just the reasons you understand so well.
And, so I pray.

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 6:22 PM

12. PK wrote:
Hi John,
I had to read this carefully. You make a good point in "They Didn't Buy It". My natural children certainly got out quickly, due to a dad who bought it after separation & divorce, a mother who never really bought it, and mother's family who sold it years ago. I really saw God's love at work during the valley experience prior to meeting & marrying my precious God given bride. She has an unconditional love and we keep each other on track. My new extended family vary in whether they bought it or not, driven by our prayer warrior matriarch Ma.
My prayer is the light will come on and shine in a special way in all our children and grandchildren and on and on for many generations - as they get it!
Blessings,
Paul

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 8:39 PM

13. Julie Todd wrote:
Loved every word, describes my journey in so many words. Grew up in the church, became the best "dead in Christ" that I could become. I think I could have been Pharisee had it been the right time and I had been a man... I was THAT good at performing... and religious knowledge. But it wasn't enough. It only hindered me from the love that I so desperately longed for. So Jesus came... and wooed my heart with His deep romance... into a world where love was the only thing that was needed... I was ruined to ordinary living. I was captured by His grace. I will never be the same....

Thu, November 17, 2011 @ 9:41 PM

14. Susan Jordan wrote:
John Lynch,

God has such a way with your words. I thank Him that His glory is revealed when you write words that give us such understanding about who He REALLY is and who we REALLY are.

A member of the Tribe.

Susan

Fri, November 18, 2011 @ 2:57 AM

15. Gordon Rouston wrote:
Thanks John, great article and insight. (35) years ago I finally got sober and all along even inna drunken and drugged fogg I knew something was missing in Religions and Churches, I would go and come ome more depressed and disillusioned-empty. When I found AA it all came together, real love, real recovery and real people that were just like me, I could identify and make friends, get to know all about who God was and pray. The punishing God lurking around every turn in my life was not condemning me and placing me on a big guilt trip for being an an addict, He just loves me.

Fri, November 18, 2011 @ 4:27 AM

16. Kathy wrote:
Best thing I have heard to describe what my heart was longing to understand about my 33 year old son's generation and where they coming from needing authenticity! Some of us parents who did not understand what had happened to us by one man's act of love in taking what what we deserved and giving us what we could never deserve, so we could be forever right in his sight and eternally at peach with God no matter what!!!... Just seems too good to be true...so it must be the good news gospel! It offends the human mind that reasons but the childlike mind can't quit smiling :)

Fri, November 18, 2011 @ 11:24 PM

17. Matt Dubbeld wrote:
Great post! I think seeing this made me start down the same path but always wanting something more, something or someone who is real. Thanks you three! So glad to be part of this tribe!

Sat, November 19, 2011 @ 5:48 PM

18. Brian Owen wrote:
Great post guys. I don't want to be directing a play that no one really wants to watch. I pray my sons will grow up seeing the real thing and not a bunch of religious posturing.

Tue, November 22, 2011 @ 6:24 PM

19. Seshu wrote:
Resident Evil 2 il primo capitolo della serie al quale ho ogacito, ed attualmente il mio preferito. Senza dubbi. Premesso questo, la mia opinione una: per quanto il comparto grafico sia notevolissimo per il Wii, la moderna mania di creare sparatutto su binari odiosa. Ok, una categoria di gioco che piace, senza dubbio. Ma non per Resident Evil. Per chi si chiedesse il perch (non credo molti, ma comunque mai dire mai), ricorderei al mondo (e alla capcom) che resident evil un alternanza di zombie lenti e macchinosi ed enigmi, enigmi, enigmi. Ed proprio quest'altalenarsi di gameplay (nonch la tensione onnipresente) che dava spessore alla serie. Ora riducono tutto ad uno spara e ammazza. Banale.

Thu, March 22, 2012 @ 6:48 PM

20. Nelly wrote:
la quantit di poligoni presnete su schermo non mi sembra di molto superiore rispetto a uc, anche le texture sono leggermente migliori.ci che invece mi lascia piacevolmente impressionato la gestione degli effetti di luce, vera forza della console nintendo (lo ripeter fino alla nausea).ci mi fa ben sperare poich una buona illuminazzione, a contrario di quanti credono il contrario (e sono molti), in grado di infondere realismo e suggestivit pi di quanto non facciano poligoni e texture.se alla capcom hanno capito questo, saranno in grado di presentare titoli graficamente soddisfacenti nonstante le lmitazioni hardware (che poi, se ci fate caso, quanto stanno facendo alla highvoltage con the conduit).

Tue, April 3, 2012 @ 10:24 PM

21. Candie wrote:
This is why I ve encouraged Son #2 to change majors and pursue politics. It s something he s passionate about anyways. He s joining the Marine Reserves today, and just to push him in the right direction, I ve started calling him Mr. President. He likes it.

Fri, April 6, 2012 @ 7:44 PM

22. Dasia wrote:
. The crooks in suits are rapidly invading every aspect of our lives, and we re all allowing them to do it. I hate to use a slippery slope argument, but if they re nationalizing banking now, what s next?

Sun, April 8, 2012 @ 9:46 PM

23. Janese wrote:
nell ultima immagine c il buon richard in versione zombie quanti ricordi povero richard dopo 10 anni e + ancora ridotto cos ,cmq sembra che gli eventi siano quantomeno simili a re 2 che nn sarebbe un male nn escludo a priori d prenderlo ma nn sono affatto contento che sia su binari,anche io preferivo il rebirth del 2 e nn con grafica ps2,vero wesker? se possono fare questa d grafica perch accontentarsi di quella ps2,direi basta rotaie e basta ps2ps ma densha de go che ha ragion d essere su binari nn lo fanno pal solo ntsc?

Wed, April 18, 2012 @ 7:49 PM

24. Lolly wrote:
La Wii ha un ottimo sistema di illuminazione, ma sembra scarsa nella gestione del bump mapping sulle texture. Effettivamente raramente si vede questo effetto nei giochi, come del resto cosi accadeva sul gamecube.A me sinceramente non dispiace che sia su binari, e l ondata di giochi di questo tipo era prevedibile che sarebbe scoppiata, anche perch il sistema di puntamento e fatto a pennello per questi giochi.Sicuramente pi avanti uscir anche la versione in terza persona del titolo capcom, ma si vede che non la loro priorit .

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